I went out on a date last night with a guy I have been out with a couple times. For me, it just seemed like the perfect opportunity to get to know him, just us. I had only run into him at social scenes...and let's be honest...sometimes social scenes are not the best place for me to really get to know someone. Hence dating...right.
So, during our date, he was really attentive, asked a lot of questions and I would answer obligingly, you know as a date should be. Conversation rolling along...you know. Well, into our date we ended up talking about 'connection' and 'communication' and what it means. I gave my very long opinion about the subject while he also provided feedback here and there. At the end, he asked what I thought was our strong suit. I said most definitely 'communication.' He then responded: "Oh...really...because it seems that I know a lot about you, but you don't know anything about me...really."
I couldn't help but laugh...what, you mean, you don't want to talk all about me!? Honestly.... ;)
Still laughing about it this morning...I read this article on MSN entitled Your Dating Bill of Rights. In the article it states:
You have the right to free speech. Yes, you want this person to like you, but that doesn’t mean you should alter your ideas or opinions to voice what you think your date wants to hear. Speak your mind! That said, make sure you encourage your date to speak freely, too. No one wants to hang out with a conversation hog.
The last phrase struck me...
Something I can most certainly improve.
Just so you all know, I am more than willing to hear what you have to say about the subject....hah hah.
6 comments:
I have the opposite problem on dates most of the time! I get so nervous or something that I can never say anything! I wish I had lots to say so that there was never that awkward silence...I think you are too funny. I love reading your blog. You are so smart and I wish you lived closer so that I could learn more from you and hear your opinions on other things!
You made me laugh...again. You are awesome.
You are an awesome person! Just be who you are. If they don't like it then oh well!
You are an awesome person! Just be who you are. If they don't like it then oh well!
You are funny! I love your blog!
well, reading your post...i think your date went well, don't you? unless the guy was totally serious about you having hogged the majority of the date...really, when it comes to communicating...going with the flow seems to work the best, with informalities of course. you can't really plan what's gonna happen or what you're gonna say on dates or during social gatherings. as long as you're enjoying each other, does it really matter who's talking! =]
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