Elder Robbins focused on the Christ-like virtue of resilience. Some refer to this as 'grit,' or the ability to bounce back. We watched this awesome TED talk by Angelee Duckworth that started the conversation.
- How can we, as teachers/ those who support students, stress the importance of giving something new a chance, or something old another chance?
- How can we teach them about follow through on commitments and the joy this integrity brings?
- How can we separate the behavior from the person, so we can truly minister with no barriers?
He then shared the following paraphrased story: Once upon a time, there was a man stuck
in the middle of the ocean. He was in a rowboat, had plenty of supplies, and ores to paddle. At first, there was hope that he would not be stuck in the middle of the ocean, so he rowed and rowed. After a while, he stopped rowing. He had given up; it was too difficult. What was his purpose anyway. All that he hoped to achieve drifted.
But then, the man spotted land. Do you think he picked up his ores and started rowing again? YES!
It is often that we are headed on a journey and hit a major roadblock or something we need to overcome. When we lose sight of that vision (island) it is harder for us to be resilient and carry on. Elder Robbins suggests that we have the opportunity to restore vision to those who are up against a rock and a hard place.
To provoke thought and discussion, he asked: what is the ONE perfect parent doing for us to help us become more resilient? What else can we do to help raise children or teach our students grit? Below are some suggestions from the employees at BYU-Idaho.
- Allow them to see and understand natural consequences of their actions.
- Teach reverence and humility toward God and the gospel.
- For example, Nephi wasn't trying to 'run the show' as they made their way through the wilderness, but he was humble enough to know that God wouldn't let him starve. This allowed him to persevere when things got tough.
- He gave an example of a close friend who wouldn't let the baby feed themselves as a baby because it was messy. As the baby grew older, the baby (now toddler) demanded that his parents feed him, because that was the only thing he knew. When we are focusing on the do, we are not focusing on the be - letting them do hard things so they know they can finish, and loving them enough to tolerate messes at the high chair.